Why do we need children?

1 Samuel 1:8 - Then said Elkanah her husband to her, Hannah, why weepest thou? and why eatest thou not? and why is thy heart grieved? am not I better to thee than ten sons?

Almost every week someone or the other is have talks on marriage. People love when someone talks about how love should bind couples in marriages. They speak of the commitment one should have to the other, sacrificing for each other, in short they see marriage as relationship between a man and woman.

When I looked at marriage in the Bible I was surprised to learn something totally different to what the world, including preachers in the Church preach about marriage. People including preachers put love as the foundation of marriage and then because they lack understanding of love, they put romance as love. They then think affection between a husband and wife is highest priority of love.

In my previous messages I have not taken this topic head-on. I always tried to induce slowly the values of marriage. In the Bible marriage is not more about the couple that come in commitment to each other, marriage is more about their commitment than about the people who commit. Love without purpose is not the love which God talks of, that is why many translations translate agape as charity more than love and agapao as love.

As Christians we are called to love (agape) everyone in the Christian Family (brethren). This love is like the love which Christ demonstrated for us. Now unless someone can love more than Christ's love, there is no difference between the love one has for his wife or her husband than the love one has for his or her brethren.

When Adam took Eve as his wife he called her Woman, a man (human) with a womb and mother of his generations. Marriage is more to do with children than with the people who come together in marriage. The purpose of marriage is more about the souls that are bought than the souls that bring them.

Romance is marriage is allowed like sex in marriage is allowed. God made the reproductive organs for reproduction but man put importance to pleasure than the purpose they are made for. Marriage happens when the two come to know each other and not when they make a commitment to each other, it happens when they demonstrate the commitment fulfilling the purpose of marriage.

People should also not think marriage is all about reproduction. Marriage is not only about bringing souls but also bringing up souls. It is about nurturing the children in body, mind and spirit, making them a strong part of the Body of Christ.

I pray to see the day when the bridegroom will take vows at marriage with words 'would you (husband) take (wife) to be the mother of your children. To love them, nurture them and bring them up in the Lord', and the same told also to the bride.

A marriage without children in the Bible is considered a cursed marriage. It demonstrated the wrath of God, such that He closed the womb. The best gift a man can have is to receive a godly child, a child is different than a child of God or child of the flesh. A godly child has great purpose in the plans God has from the Church in other words is a Man or Woman of God.

We need to understand in this world we are just playing a role as husband and wife. In Heaven we are neither husbands nor wives to anyone, we will all be of the same gender (not earthly gender) called Sons of God. Jesus said we would be like the Angels not given in marriage. Even our children and grandchildren would be our brethren for us, for us as spirit beings we will have only Father - God. There is no difference between the children we bring out of our flesh and those that we bring of spirit. That is why Jesus said any person who abides by the Will of His Father is His mother, sister and brother.

Marriage in short is a statute to learn and understand things that are Heavenly. Marriage is not only between humans but true marriage is only between Believers (children of God) everything else is consensual agreements. Marriage is not a commandment but more a part of our role and purpose (if it is else is a way to escape temptation). That is why Paul says those who are not called for marriage and have the grace to overcome the weakness of the flesh should not get marriage. Our spiritual role and purpose in this world is top priority above all other things we have in this world and that role is to build the Body of Christ; marriage and everything else comes second.

[ Prayer Starter ]
Lord, we pray that You open the minds of your people to understand their purpose in this world, that they understand life is much more than the time we spend in this body of flesh. Lord your people have made this flesh which is a prison to their soul and spirit as their world, their mind and spirit is restricted to the things of the flesh. Lord, we pray your people may understand Love the way You demonstrated it and thus understand the Wedding that awaits us in Heaven...

This prayer we make in Jesus' Name, Amen.

[ Reference ]
Genesis 2:18-24
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Genesis 3:20 - And Adam called his wife's name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.

Matthew 22:23-30
23 The same day came to him the Sadducees, which say that there is no resurrection, and asked him,
24 Saying, Master, Moses said, If a man die, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife, and raise up seed unto his brother.
25 Now there were with us seven brethren: and the first, when he had married a wife, deceased, and, having no issue, left his wife unto his brother:
26 Likewise the second also, and the third, unto the seventh.
27 And last of all the woman died also.
28 Therefore in the resurrection whose wife shall she be of the seven? for they all had her.
29 Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God.
30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.

Matthew 1:24-25 (Joseph became Jesus' legal father after He was born and not at the time of His birth)
24 Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:
25 And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name JESUS.

Matthew 12:50 - For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

The Hebrew word translated as wife also means woman. In Greek it also has root mean 'be fulfilled'.

Matthew 19:12 - For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it. (Eunuch meaning official of high status represents here anointed Men of God emphasizing some are born Men of God, some are made by men and some make themselves one).

Read 1 Corinthian 7

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